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Tuesday, January 10 This morning I woke up at 4:30 and felt the weight of grief so heavy again, I sobbed and sobbed, then went to breakfast and ate an unhealthy white flour waffle for comfort food. Jessica is a world. I have only to say
her name, and the very sound of it, or
the thought of it, conjures up that world.
I know that this will always be so, since
there is really no death, only a change
of worlds. (Did St. Paul say that, or Black
Elk?) Because of my 35-year spiritual connection
with Jessica, as well as the intimacy of
participating in the holiness of her dying,
I I recall how Fr. William so often quoted this gorgeous passage from Shakespeare: "Oh, that this too, too solid flesh would melt, thaw, and dissolve itself into a dew." It seemed so lofty and sublime before. But now, I watch Jessica's flesh melting away more and more each day. And each day the smell of death grows stronger as the "ketones" build up as a toxic waste product of cellular decomposition. Shakespeare does not feel so sublime now, and the ache in my heart grows larger and more painful. Jessica chose a lovely Celtic cross to cover her ashes. This afternoon Loren glued it on to a "perfect" wooden box that had arrived for Christmas. It was beautiful to look through the window and watch him work so lovingly. It's good to have such touchstones of the end. Jessica is clearly on the other side today. She doesn't speak and barely moves, with her eyes always closed. No more nightgown. She lies naked, covered only with a soft blue blanket. Her heart has slowed down, and her lungs are filling with fluid. It can't be long now. Tomorrow is Jan's birthday. Jessica brought her into the world at 1:30 am. Jan hopes that her mother will die tomorrow so that from now on she'll celebrate two birthdays on January 11: hers into this world, Jessica's into the next world. Next Journal Entry || Fr. Dave Denny's Reflections on Jessica
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